Overcoming Rejection After a Serious Relationship

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Chances are, the majority of your serious relationships won't end with wedding bells or eternal bliss. They will end with good and bad memories and often time rejection.

If you happen to be the rejector, then life seems a bit more manageable. It's comfortable to be in control.

When your partner is the rejector however it's like having a messy bedroom and not quite knowing how to clean it up. Every thing seems wrong and doubt seeps into your mind like rain through a leaky roof. On the other hand, you happen to be a lucky member of the human race who has the power to make decisions and the power to make the decisions which will make rejection seem like it's only another step to a very successful future.

Take a look a 6 decisions you can make to overcome rejection after a serious relationship with a positive outcome:

Tip #1: Overcoming Rejection after a Serious Relationship with People
Whatever you do, no matter where you go, make the decision to avoid isolation after the break up of a serious relationship. Associating with other guys or other girls may feel pointless, boring, and painful but you'll find that gradually you will start to wake up and remove the lenses of your past serious relationship.

Tip #2: Overcoming Rejection after a Serious Relationship through Change
Once rejected, it's common to wonder what you did wrong. It's common to wonder whether or not it would have helped if you had been thinner, more beautiful, more patient, more successful, given your partner more compliments, etc. It's simply a good idea to establish in your mind why it was that your partner decided to reject you and then move on.1 If you like, talk to your x-partner and ask him or her why. If that seems impossible tell the truth as you know it. Try and decide what she or he was thinking and then determine one way that you can change for the better. Don't change for him or for her but because you are smart enough to know that you can and do want to become a better person for yourself and for those serious relationships that will accompany you in the future.

Tip #3: Overcoming Rejection after a Serious Relationship with Laughter
Laughter relieves our fears and anxieties like no amount of drugstore variety medicine can. Seek out what makes you laugh and make sure you get a bit of laughter every day after a break up. You'll be surprised how often you can focus completely on the aspects of life that you love when you are busy enjoying the funny side of life.

Tip #4: Overcoming Rejection after a Serious Relationship by Talking
Tell you friends what happened. Tell them how you feel. Ask them what they honestly think and take their constructive advice with humility.

Tip #5: Overcoming Rejection after a Serious Relationship with a Hobby
After a severe breakup some individuals crash down in despair because a serious relationship and people in general is what they live and die for. This is the time to get a hobby. If you don't have a hobby you can turn to at this point, this is the time to develop one. High energy exercise, dance and outdoor activities can be especially relieving. Some individuals prefer artistic expression or quieter forms of individual expression. Singing or the theater can also be amazing forms of release for those with overloads of emotional energy.

Tip #6: Overcoming Rejection after a Serious Relationship with Service
When you are rejected you are in no stage of mind to think of others. You want to think about yourself and it's natural to feel that way. Get used to the fact that sometimes we have to work against our natural tendencies. Find someone to serve or participate in a cause that is worthy. Evaluate your beliefs and values. Perhaps you may find that this will be a great time to explore other ideas, religions, groups or hobbies.

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About the Author

Marci Crane is a copywriter for Main10 in Orem, Utah. Would you like to begin a new serious relationship? Learn more about Heavenly Matched.

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