Pick-Up Lines: The Opinion Opener

With all the single women out there, and the thousands of different things you could say when introducing yourself, you'd think it would be easy to meet a woman. However, most men struggle with what to say after "Hi." They fear that awkward pause as it becomes clear you have absolutely nothing to say and basically just thought she was hot. Never fear, however, today we introduce the Opinion Opener, as popularized by Neil Strauss and Mystery several years ago.

Opinion openers work because they recognize two key truths about women: they love to talk and are very opinionated. By asking the women their opinion on something, you have a built in conversation piece to talk about, and can occupy any awkward silences that can come up the first few minutes.

Picture yourself in a bar, on your way to approach a group of three women. One thing you might say is:

"Hey guys, I need a female opinion on something. I only have a minute. Do you think if a guy invites a girl to a ball, he should pay for her ticket?" Usually, they'll say yes.

Continue on with "Well, my roommate invited this girl from work to a Halloween ball, and she is insisting he pay for her cover, her sister's cover, and to even pay for her costume. What do you think of that?"

Immediately, the women will respond with "No way! Tell him to drop the witch!" This will spring open more topics such as Halloween, relationships, etc. You now have enough rapport with them to talk about other things as well. Get off opening topic soon and go on to something else, or the energy will start to really stagnate.

Other questions could be:

"My friend's starting a glam rock band and he needs a name for it. What do you think is a better name, The Red Rokkers or SexJam?"

"My friend Becky has been talking to this guy online for like 6 months, started to feel like things were moving somewhere, and they were going to meet, but she just saw a recent photo of him and he's not good looking at all. What should she do?"

Make sure that each opinion opener begins with "Hey guys, I need a quick opinion on something, before I get back to my friends." Having a false time constraint within the opener lets the girls know you're not sticking around forever, so they'll be more willing to talk to you.

The best use of opinion openers is for guys that aren't used to going up to women that regularly. Women are usually likely to comply with an opinion opener even if they're not sold on the guy yet, so it's great practice for beginners. Remember that it may sound awkward to use these at first, but just keep doing it, and it will be very natural.

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